Step out of pain into freedom with Godís helpcomment (0)
February 9, 2006
By Kaye S. Farrow
Every person alive has been touched by pain. Left to ourselves, we are victims. I have often said, “Until the pain of where I am is greater than the pleasure of where I am, change will not take place.”
Although this statement is true, sometimes pain can become the pleasure. Pain becomes the norm of our lives, so we live with pain as a comforting friend.
Pain becomes our purpose and meaning because the fear of letting go of the pain is greater than the pain itself. The pleasure of pain, in this case, is that it calms that fear, so we live with our pain.
The problem is that we are not designed to live with this pain. God has designed us to continually bring our pain to Him until the pain becomes His perfected strength in our weakness.
This is a process that begins by looking back. God was there when the pain began.
He saw the place, the person, the event that broke our heart and simultaneously changed our innocence. At that time, the painful experience was filtered through our one-dimensional perspective.
God was there and knows all the intricate details from all perspectives. He knows the truth and asks us to surrender our perception to His truth so that He can take away the bondage of pain and can use that pain as a catalyst for growth and ministry.
His work in this area is nothing short of amazing.
God has provided people to support us through the process of healing. Christian counselors, pastors, friends are all a part of His plan for the members of the body of Christ to respond to each other.
Many people have struggled themselves and have found restoration. The privilege of healing and growing is to help someone else.
We cannot allow Satan to keep us trapped in the lie of isolation, shame and defeat. We expose these lies when we share our stories of God’s grace and power with each other.
Step out of the pain and into the freedom that God designed for you. This will not be easy, but God has provided a way and He calls each of us to use all of His resources.
Strength and freedom await you. The privilege of personal growth and ministry is just around the corner.
Editor’s Note — Kaye S. Farrow is a licensed marriage and family therapist with Marriage and Family Therapy Associates in Trussville. She is a member of First Baptist Church of Chalkville in Birmingham, where her husband, Joel, serves as pastor.