Song of Songs 5:6–10; 6:1–3; 8:4–7 comment (0)
May 22, 2014
By Robert Olsen
Related Scripture: Song of Solomon 5:6–10; 6:1–3; 8:4–7
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Song of Songs 5:6–10; 6:1–3; 8:4–7
Marriage in the Western world has been under attack in recent years. In the United States, the divorce rate has increased to about 50 percent. The more the U.S. moves away from a Christian basis, the less value marriage has in our culture. Even the number of Christians who get divorced has increased recently. This figure should be the most worrisome for believers — it shows that in some ways, Christian marriage isn’t that different from non-Christian marriage, but this is not supposed to be the case. Since marriage is ordained by God, Christians need to take their marriages seriously and do what they can to protect them.
Longing Love (5:6, 8–10)
In these passages, the groom was distant from his bride, and she obviously misses him and longs to be with him. Surely this is a good sign — if a couple does not long to be with each other it should send up warning signals. It is wise for married couples to spend time with each other on a regular basis. There are couples who are so busy raising children that once their children leave for work or college, they don’t seem to know each other anymore and they don’t know what to do with each other. Communication is key to a good, healthy relationship that lasts.
Exclusive Love (6:1–3)
When we commit to another person in marriage, that is the only person who we should think about with romantic affection. This also applies to spending time with members of the opposite gender. It is possible for a work relationship to become an emotional relationship, where there is no sexual aspect but important concerns about life are shared, leaving out the spouse. This begins to create a separation between the married couple because this emotional element of the marriage relationship is being spent with someone else. One needs to be especially careful of this because it can easily morph into a sexual affair.
True Love (8:4–7)
One thing that is important to consider is that not everyone is called to be married. Interestingly in the early Church, many people believed that it was superior to not marry at all — this is why the Roman Catholic Church still insists upon celibacy for priests, monks and nuns. In the U.S., many Christians tend to emphasize the other extreme — that people really need to be married. Many people find their identity in whom they are dating or in whom they marry, or others feel like they need to married in order to be “complete.” Clearly it is imperative that any Christian find their identity in Jesus Christ — He is the One who brings about true identity and completion.
However, many people do feel called to be married, which is a good thing, and they should be free to marry. But those seeking to be married need to use much wisdom because it is not something to rush into. The most important aspect of a potential partner needs to be their relationship with God. Paul tells us in 2 Corinthians 6:14 that we are not to be yoked to unbelievers. Christians should never marry non-Christians because there is a great likelihood that the non-Christian will lead the Christian astray, and it certainly makes raising children difficult as the children are given mixed signals when it comes to how to live and act and what to believe.
Furthermore Christians need to be sure to affirm sexual purity until marriage. Modern culture tells us that we should have sex whenever we feel “ready” and with whomever we want. This attitude is not Christian at all. Sex is to be reserved for marriage. Just because society tells us it is OK, Christians answer to God, not society, and we obey Him.
In modern society, Christians should be leading the way in showing the world how marriage is supposed to work. Instead of being transformed to the culture — Christians get divorced as much as non-Christians in American society — Christians need to show how to truly love one another with forgiveness, compassion and commitment.